It was a warm Saturday morning as I sat and sipped my morning coffee, on my favorite area outside our house garden when I suddenly remembered to get my Marlboro Red half-pack which I left inside my room. I immediately stood-up fast, when suddenly my pet cat blocked my path and bit me on my knee and foot. It was so fast. The cat acted so abrupt. Thank God, he didn’t bit me deep and hard…
I asked myself – “Why?” Why did my favorite cat bit me suddenly? And I realized later, he was agitated by my sudden fast movements and sudden standing-up. I forgot that my pet cat whom I call ‘Muning-Muning’ (a black & white colored male cat) was caressing my foot at that time. My cat might have been “disoriented” by my sudden actions. So, he bit me.
People and other living things react negatively when they get surprised in a wrong manner. Especially when they were not really expecting it to happen.
This is one of the greatest lessons, too, that I’ve learned from celebrities. They react negatively when people or incidents seemed to be “pressuring” them. It’s an instinct on their part, a self-defense to avoid any untoward happening that may befall. It’s human nature, too.
Celebrities do get “traumatized”. We must handle them with care. They are fragile. Precious.
I remembered when Princess Diana met a sudden car accident, together with her fiancee and driver many years ago. They were escaping papparazzis at that time and the car was speeding. It became an international issue. But later on, the blaming on the paparazzis subsided. And life went on.
It’s the price that celebrities couldn’t really take. THE AGGRESSION.
People flock them, shout at them, run after them, chase them…
A little mistake on their part, people will speak ‘ill’of them. People will punish them.
If they snub, get mad, ‘dirty-finger’ back, or yell back…
They will be on the BAD spotlight.
And I now ‘feel’ more deeply their plight. I understood them now more clearly.
The incident on my pet cat further made me realize that. That every human and every living soul, react in different ways with AGGRESSION.
So please, let’s all handle this situation with great care.
AND THIS IS THE GREATEST LESSON THAT I HAVE LEARNED, TOO, WITH A CELEBRITY-FRIEND OF MINE.
One day, I became too aggressive on my text messages to the celebrity. I was on my morning walk that day and I was so excited and hyper. My spirits were running high. I forgot, it was still early morning and the celebrity I was texting might be not on the right mood yet for any “untoward messages”. And there it was, I accidentally texted the celebrity with a message that could almost ruin her day. I was unaware. It wasn’t my intention to be aggressive. I didn’t really know.
The celebrity replied with a very gentle question. A very educated way of dealing with aggression.
I was dumb-founded. I realized I was wrong. But I replied with another wrong answer. So, the celebrity replied again with another different question. That was it! I really felt I was wrong! How could I be like that???
Oh, my. Thanks God, I realized my mistake. Thanks to this celebrity!
The mere fact that my celebrity-friends have been so supportive of me was enough. I shouldn’t ask for more.
In the first place, I was more like a friend to them, not a media person. And I am no longer a member of the PRESS/MEDIA kind of person. I am now simply a BLOGGER.
AND MY CELEBRITY-FRIENDS KNOW THAT. THEY SEE ME MORE OF A FRIEND, RATHER THAN A MEDIA PERSON. AND THEY KNOW, THE REASON WHY I CHOSE TO BE A BLOGGER NOW, IT’S BECAUSE THEY KNOW I AM NOT THAT TYPE. I prefered their company, their warmth, their friendship…
But most of the times, I acted wrong. I was ‘characterizing’ the MEDIA IMAGE. An ‘insisting’, “redandant’, ‘stalking’ & ‘demanding’ kind of a media persona.
That’s the time my celebrity friends shy-away from me. They get ‘turned-off’.
These are the lessons that I’ve learned from my celebrity friends.
I feel now, they are also human beings. They care, they get hurt, they get disappointed. When they see you as a friend, they do see you as ONE. But most of the times, the media person they’ve all learned to love with, turns out to be more loyal to his or her profession- the writing career profession. And the celebrities would get hurt so deeply. They get traumatized.
I have learned, too, that celebrities were often ‘labeled’ the wrong way. They were branded as THIS or as THAT. They were most of the times, misjudged. Most people say that they are “plastics”, “fakes” or “users”. But for this blogger, I have seen their SOULS. They were not what people thought they were.
They are human beings, too….
I have also learned a great lesson from a mother of a late teen celebrity. Her invitation for me to attend a special event was so sincere, so warm, so kind… But I acted with such a great kind of “attitude”. I agreed for three times to attend the event. And even a TV & movie actress supported me, she promised she would be with me. So I private messaged the mom on her Facebook that I would really attend. But on the last minute, I changed my mind. I texted the movie actress that I would no longer attend anymore. But I didn’t explain any further to the mom. It’s as if I didn’t care at all.
It’s not the mom whom I hurted the most. It wasn’t the movie actress, too, but the late celebrity-son of the mother who invited me. I didn’t know…
After the “snub” that I mistakenly did, a series of bad events happened to me. I got sick three times, three non-showbiz friends deserted me, followed by some bad lucks, arguments, family matters… Never-ending!
And this is the greatest lesson of all. The law of the universe “punished” me. It’s the law of KARMA.
But in my deep solitudes at night, I explained to ‘someone’ my reasons.
THAT, I HAVE DEEP-ROOTED TRAUMAS, TOO.
A lot of showbiz folks have played “April’s Fool” on me already in the past, it left deep wounds upon me. Especially on big showbiz events. I was always made and put into a “laughing stock” character in many occasions. I got traumatized.
That’s why I preferred to be an INCOGNITO now.
Lessons from celebrities could make me grow more deeper as an individual, yes. But I will never change my “carefree” attitude, my happy bearing, my sweetness to the celebrities, my love for them…
The industry, yes again, these celebrities sacrificed a lot for the INDUSTRY. They sacrificed their time, they sacrificed their own private lives, their families, their freedom…
We must pay back to them the LOVE they fully deserved.
And as I promised to someone,
my task continues.
NO MATTER WHAT.
An essay written by ROBERT MANUGUID SILVERIO