LESSONS FROM CELEBRITIES… a personal essay by robert manuguid silverio

It was a warm Saturday morning as I sat and sipped my morning coffee, on my favorite area outside our house garden when I suddenly remembered to get my Marlboro Red half-pack which I left inside my room. I immediately stood-up fast, when suddenly my pet cat blocked my path and bit me on my knee and foot. It was so fast. The cat acted so abrupt. Thank God, he didn’t bit me deep and hard…

I asked myself – “Why?” Why did my favorite cat bit me suddenly? And I realized later, he was agitated by my sudden fast movements and sudden standing-up. I forgot that my pet cat whom I call ‘Muning-Muning’ (a black & white colored male cat) was caressing my foot at that time. My cat might have been “disoriented” by my sudden actions. So, he bit me.

People and other living things react negatively when they get surprised in a wrong manner. Especially when they were not really expecting it to happen.

This is one of the greatest lessons, too, that I’ve learned from celebrities. They react negatively when people or incidents seemed to be “pressuring” them. It’s an instinct on their part, a self-defense to avoid any untoward happening that may befall. It’s human nature, too.

Celebrities do get “traumatized”. We must handle them with care. They are fragile. Precious.

I remembered when Princess Diana met a sudden car accident, together with her fiancee and driver many years ago. They were escaping papparazzis at that time and the car was speeding. It became an international issue. But later on, the blaming on the paparazzis subsided. And life went on.

It’s the price that celebrities couldn’t really take. THE AGGRESSION.

People flock them, shout at them, run after them, chase them…

A little mistake on their part, people will speak ‘ill’of them. People will punish them.

If they snub, get mad, ‘dirty-finger’ back, or yell back…

They will be on the BAD spotlight.

And I now ‘feel’ more deeply their plight. I understood them now more clearly.

The incident on my pet cat further made me realize that. That every human and every living soul, react in different ways with AGGRESSION.

So please, let’s all handle this situation with great care.

AND THIS IS THE GREATEST LESSON THAT I HAVE LEARNED, TOO, WITH A CELEBRITY-FRIEND OF MINE.

One day, I became too aggressive on my text messages to the celebrity. I was on my morning walk that day and I was so excited and hyper. My spirits were running high.  I forgot, it was still early morning and the celebrity I was texting might be not on the right mood yet for any “untoward messages”. And there it was, I accidentally texted the celebrity with a message that could almost ruin her day. I was unaware. It wasn’t my intention to be aggressive. I didn’t really know.

The celebrity replied with a very gentle question. A very educated way of dealing with aggression.

I was dumb-founded. I realized I was wrong. But I replied with another wrong answer. So, the celebrity replied again with another different question. That was it! I really felt I was wrong! How could I be like that???

Oh, my. Thanks God, I realized my mistake. Thanks to this celebrity!

The mere fact that my celebrity-friends have been so supportive of me was enough. I shouldn’t ask for more.

In the first place, I was more like a friend to them, not a media person. And I am no longer a member of the PRESS/MEDIA kind of person. I am now simply a BLOGGER.

AND MY CELEBRITY-FRIENDS KNOW THAT. THEY SEE ME MORE OF A FRIEND, RATHER THAN A MEDIA PERSON. AND THEY KNOW, THE REASON WHY I CHOSE TO BE A BLOGGER NOW, IT’S BECAUSE THEY KNOW I AM NOT THAT TYPE. I prefered their company, their warmth, their friendship…

But most of the times, I acted wrong. I was ‘characterizing’ the MEDIA IMAGE. An ‘insisting’, “redandant’, ‘stalking’ & ‘demanding’ kind of a media persona.

That’s the time my celebrity friends shy-away from me. They get ‘turned-off’.

These are the lessons that I’ve learned from my celebrity friends.

I feel now, they are also human beings. They care, they get hurt, they get disappointed. When they see you as a friend, they do see you as ONE. But most of the times, the media person they’ve all learned to love with, turns out to be more loyal to his or her profession- the writing career profession. And the celebrities would get hurt so deeply. They get traumatized.

I have learned, too, that celebrities were often ‘labeled’ the wrong way. They were branded as THIS or as THAT. They were most of the times, misjudged. Most people say that they are “plastics”, “fakes” or “users”. But for this blogger, I have seen their SOULS. They were not what people thought they were.

They are human beings, too….

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I have also learned a great lesson from a mother of a late teen celebrity. Her invitation for me to attend a special event was so sincere, so warm, so kind… But I acted with such a great kind of “attitude”. I agreed for three times to attend the event. And even a TV & movie actress supported me, she promised she would be with me. So I private messaged  the mom on her Facebook  that I would really attend. But on the last minute, I changed my mind. I texted the movie actress that I would no longer attend anymore. But I didn’t explain any further to the mom. It’s as if I didn’t care at all.

It’s not the mom whom I hurted the most. It wasn’t the movie actress, too, but the late celebrity-son of the mother who invited me. I didn’t know…

After the “snub” that I mistakenly did, a series of bad events happened to me. I got sick three times, three non-showbiz friends deserted me, followed by some bad lucks, arguments, family matters… Never-ending!

And this is the greatest lesson of all. The law of the universe “punished” me. It’s the law of KARMA.

But in my deep solitudes at night, I explained to ‘someone’ my reasons.

THAT, I HAVE DEEP-ROOTED TRAUMAS, TOO.

A lot of showbiz folks have played “April’s Fool” on me already in the past, it left deep wounds upon me. Especially on big showbiz events. I was always made and put into a “laughing stock” character in many occasions. I got traumatized.

That’s why I preferred to be an INCOGNITO now.

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Lessons from celebrities could make me grow more deeper as an individual, yes. But I will never change my “carefree” attitude, my happy bearing, my sweetness to the celebrities, my love for them…

The industry, yes again,  these celebrities sacrificed a lot for the INDUSTRY. They sacrificed their time, they sacrificed their own private lives, their families, their freedom…

We must pay back to them the LOVE they fully deserved.

And as I promised to someone,

my task continues.

NO MATTER WHAT.

An essay written by ROBERT MANUGUID SILVERIO

AJ Perez, The Inspiration Continues…. (Written By Zenaida Roy-Almario)

a book on AJ PEREZ (r.i.p.), soon.

🙂 foreword from sip & sip:

A BOOK ON THE LIFE OF THE LATE AJ PEREZ (r.i.p.) IS COMING-OUT SOON. MRS. ZENAIDA ROY- ALMARIO, WHO WROTE THE PIECE BELOW, WILL BE THE CO-AUTHOR OF THIS BOOK ON AJ, AND AJ’S MOM, MRS. MA. VICTORIA SARTE-PEREZ WILL BE SHARING AUTHORSHIP ON THE BOOK WITH MRS. ALMARIO.

YES, AND IT SEEMS, AJ’S INSPIRATION TO ALL OF US, HAS NOT YET REALLY ENDED. IT GOES ON AND ON. HE NEVER REALLY LEFT US.

WITH THAT, WE MUST ALL DO WHAT AJ WANTS, WHAT HE ASKS US TO BE LIKE.. OR, WHAT HE DREAMS OF US TO BECOME. LET US ALL SUPPORT THIS GREAT LEGACY OF AJ. THIS IS A MISSION FOR ALL OF US.

MRS. ALMARIO HAS GIVEN THIS BLOGGER ALL THE MUCH-NEEDED MORAL ENCOURAGEMENTS TO CONTINUE OUR TASK WITH AJ. JUST LIKE ALL OF AJ’S FRIENDS, WE ARE SO EXCITED FOR THE UPCOMING BOOK ON HIM.

AGAIN WE SAY, AJ WE LOVE YOU.

SIP & SIP 🙂

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“AJ PEREZ, THE INSPIRATION CONTINUES…”

Written By Zenaida Roy-Almario
05-10-12

As the author of BRAGN™ – Be Real And Great Now, Rhymes and Reasons to Inspire Positive and Proactive Communicating Young Adults, I made it my mission to make an encourag…ing impact in the lives of tweens, teens and parents everywhere through my love and passion for writing and teaching. With all that said, it is of no surprise to many how I was affected by the tragic and sudden loss of Filipino teen actor, dancer, model and heart-throb, Antonello Joseph Sarte Perez, more fondly known as, AJ Perez.

It was in the early hours in San Diego, California, on April 17, 2011, that I saw a post shared on Facebook by my cousin, Reynan Rublico. AJ’s handsome face initially caught my attention; then as a mother and mentor for young adults, the headline anguished my heart and opened a flood gate of tears that was unstoppable, not just for that moment in time, but in the months that followed.

our task to AJ … continues.

Immediately, there was an emotional connection with AJ’s life story, not because of his success in show business, rather in the successes with relationships in all areas of his life, with his parents, brother, girlfriend, family, friends, school mates, fellow entertainers, and most of all, his endearing and loyal fans known as the Ultimate Ajsters Clan (UAC).

As the minutes and hours came and went, a multitude of interviews, articles, videos and fan tributes inundated the social media networks, especially on Facebook, YouTube and Twitter. With all the coverage on AJ, along with his numerous shows and movies available online, there was no escaping getting to know this young man, the essence of AJ, and him captivating your heart. This was a young man who symbolized the role model for young adults that BRAGN™ was on a mission to inspire, by the masses, on how tweens and teens should be like; to live life positively, proactively and with purpose, determination and drive. I found myself smiling, literally beaming like a proud peacock, and inspired to continue with my work and mission with motivating young adults. For there was hope! For AJ to have been the great person that he was and being a role model and an inspiration to many individuals, gave hope for my passion for young adults to Be Real And Great Now.

I became deeply and emotionally impacted by AJ’s story. I wanted to contact his family. Not just to give them my condolence and prayers, but to sincerely congratulate them for their accomplishments in raising a fine young man in AJ, as well as in Angello (Gello) Sarte Perez, their younger son. AJ was caring, loving, respectful, wise, spiritual and dedicated in excellence towards school, being an athlete and his work in entertainment.

I tried to connect with AJ’s parents on Facebook to no avail. Then in January of this year, AJ’s Dad’s name, Gerry Perez, came up on my Facebook Friend’s Suggestion List. It was a surprise and an opportunity I seized to send my heartfelt message to the family. Mr. Perez responded with a congratulatory message on my book and inspirational work with young adults. He suggested that I connect with his wife, Ma Victoria Sarte Perez. Mrs. Perez and I quickly connected. Through several private message exchanges, Mrs. Perez and I realized that our connection was not a coincidence, but was purposeful and with meaning.

“aj is now an angel”— sip & sip 🙂

Life is a journey. The time to travel and live one’s journey, varies from one person to another. AJ’s life spanned seventeen full years, and two months into his eighteenth year. To many individuals, AJ’s life is one cut too short and surely gone too soon. However, to his Mom, Dad and younger brother, Gello, it was a life very blessed and lived just right.

Never knowing what the future holds, AJ made the most of his time here on earth. He took the time to create, build and maintain great relationships with people in all areas of his life, as well as within himself through his spiritual beliefs. He pursued his passion for entertainment and sports, as well as doing great work in school, receiving academic awards from grade school to high school. AJ’s accomplishments are notable and preserved in time. The positive impact and influence AJ made in the lives of those he loved and all his fans, know that there is no time or spatial boundaries in their connection with him.

Today, a little over a year since AJ’s untimely passing, his influence transcends, and continually inspire and motivate people, especially young adults, even if it is only in spirit. Many individuals, young and the young at heart, sincerely refer to him as their “IDOL.” The large number of fan sites created on Facebook dedicated to AJ, and with his official fan page number of followers, surpassing the “four hundred thousand mark,” are evidence of the continuing love and support for AJ, and the strong desire to stay connected to him.

The Perez family see, hear and feel the great love and admiration for their beloved AJ. The overwhelming devotion for AJ, fill their hearts with love, pride and gratitude. It has been a challenging journey these past, almost thirteen, months since AJ’s passing. With the out pouring of love and support from family, friends and fans, along with their strong spiritual connection with AJ and God, they have been able to learn, grow and move on from this life’s experience.

the late aj perez with his loving family.

In getting to know AJ, as a son, brother, boyfriend, friend, classmate, athlete and entertainer, a symbol of an Apostle comes to my mind. An Apostle meaning, “one sent on a mission.” I believe he was sent to us to be an inspiration and hope, that good things come to those who are positive, proactive and with heart. After all, the quality of one’s life is not measured in the length of time he lives, but how he lived in that length of time to make a lasting impact after his work is done. It is with great pleasure and honor to announce that BRAGN™ – Be Real And Great Now, has been chosen to be the publisher and co-writer, with AJ’s Mom, Ma Victoria Sarte Perez, of a book, celebrating his life and accomplishments, along with the family’s hope and desire to assist others who may have experienced a similar journey as they have in the last thirteen months. AJ and the Perez Family’s story is guaranteed to be one that will continue to lift your spirit and have you believing in faith, hope, and the promise, that there is a better tomorrow.

—by zenaida roy-almario

mrs. zenaida roy-almario: author.

isang pasasalamat… mula kay gerald santos!

from mr. cocoy ramilo, gerald santos’ manager:

“Please watch Gerald’s concert this Friday, May 18…Today, May 15, Tuesday, is his birthday naman..Suportahan natin si Gerald ‘coz he deserves all the support that he could get..Napakabait na bata niyan..at napakagaling!.. In my book, he is the best! The most effective singer! A true genius when it comes to singing! Experience for yourself ‘yung sinasabi ko..See him perform live on May 18, 7:30pm at the PETA Theater!…GOD IS THE SOURCE OF EVERY TALENT..LET US BRING BACK ALL THE GLORY AND HONOR TO HIM!!!!”–(mr. cocoy ramilo).

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Imagegerald with some members of the movie press who all loves him: butch roldan, rommel placente, john fontanilla, cesar pambid, blessie cirera & MR. ALEX DATU (the one & only).

FROM SIP & SIP 🙂

“I AM SO EXCITED NA TO WATCH GERALD AGAIN ONSTAGE! TO THE MAXXXX! OH MY! SEE YOU ON THE 18TH, MY GERALD!!!”